suggestion 1: don't make decisions for your boss.
Wen Wen is lively, cheerful, young and capable, especially in planning and organizing activities. After a few years in the business, my position rose very quickly and soon became the main force in the unit. A few days ago, the new boss took office. As soon as he got off the bus, he called Wenwen over and said, "Wenwen, you have experience and strong ability. Here is a new project. Please take more trouble to get it!"
The new boss can reuse himself, Wen Wen is greatly encouraged, and he is devoted to the planning of new projects. Just that day, I need to go to a neighboring city in Shanghai to negotiate. The text has the final say. There are several people in the party. It is inconvenient to take the bus, and people have to be involved, which will affect the negotiation effect. Take a taxi, one is not enough, and the cost of two is too high; It's best to rent a car, which is economical.
I made up my mind and Wenwen didn't go directly to handle it. Career life in recent years has made her understand that it is absolutely necessary to report everything to the boss. In this way, Wenwen came to the boss for instructions.
"Boss, we are going to negotiate today," Wenwen analyzed the advantages and disadvantages of several schemes, and then said, "Therefore, I decided to charter a car!" After the report, Wenwen looked at the boss's face and didn't know why it was dark. He said, "Is that so? But I don't think this plan is good. You'd better buy a ticket and take a long-distance bus! " Wenwen was stunned at that time. She really didn't expect that such a reasonable proposal was rejected by her boss.
"It doesn't make sense. Even a fool can see that the scheme I chose is the best!" Wen Wen is very puzzled.
in fact, it is very valuable to report to the boss more often when something happens, but the mistake lies in the improper use of words. What Wenwen said at that time was: "I decided to charter a car!" In front of the boss, saying "I decide what to do" is the most taboo.
If Wenwen says: Boss, now we have three choices, with different advantages and disadvantages. Personally, I think it's better to rent a car, but I can't do it myself. You have more experience. Can you help me with an idea? When the boss hears this, he will certainly be accommodating and agree to your request. Isn't this the best of both worlds?
suggestion 2: don't joke with the boss casually
Xiao Yang is a very clever girl. Her words are sharp, her brain is quick, and her humorous cells are particularly rich. She is a "pistachio" in the company. However, such a lovely Xiao Yang is never appreciated by the boss.
I work so hard and do things perfectly. Why can't I get the slightest approval from my boss? After careful review, Xiao Yang seems to be aware of his own shortcomings.
I like to joke with my colleagues on weekdays. Later, I saw that my boss was gentle and gentle, always smiling at his subordinates, and he became courageous, even making jokes on his boss. On this day, the boss came to work wearing new clothes, gray suit, gray shirt, gray trousers and gray tie. Xiao Yang shouted in surprise: "Boss, you are wearing new clothes today!" " The boss was happy when he heard it. Before he tasted the feeling of joy, Xiao Yang's words came on: "Like a gray mouse!" "
one more day. The customer came to sign a contract with the boss and praised the boss: "Your signature is really magnificent!" " Xiao Yang happened to come to the boss's office. When he heard it, he gave a bad smile: "It must be magnificent. Our boss has been practicing hard for three months in the dark!" As soon as this sentence is said, both the boss and the customer are in embarrassment.
Joking can really narrow the distance between colleagues and adjust interpersonal relationships. However, joking like Xiao Yang makes people feel embarrassed and embarrassed, but she is not aware of it herself, which is why although she is smart and capable, she can never be reused.
Actually, a joke with personal attacks is a black joke, which shows a human weakness: when seeing a person or a thing, people will unconsciously find faults, which is a habit of thinking. In life, people who like to play black jokes are all keen to find fault with others. Such people are usually regarded as "mean" and easy to cause resentment of others. Colleagues may just laugh, but the consequences of offending the boss's majesty are very serious. If you want to leave a good impression on your boss, you should try your best to overcome this weakness, be tolerant, learn to see the advantages of others, and gradually improve the image of "meanness".
suggestion 3: when you have nothing to say, you might as well talk about the changes in the other person's clothes.
If you are especially honest and dull and seldom speak, you will never attract everyone's attention. Xiao Li is such a person. Therefore, although he works diligently, he has been in the middle of the company and has not been promoted in his old position for several years.
The boss is on a business trip and wants to take several employees with him. On the train, Xiao Li's berth was right next to the boss. After a few words, they fell silent. Xiao Li felt that this situation of staring at each other with eyes wide open was really suffocating, and something had to be said to break the silence. However, he never deals with leaders, and he really doesn't know where to start.
Suddenly, Xiao Li saw the boss wearing a pair of shiny leather shoes, which was particularly conspicuous, so he said, "Boss, you really have good taste in these shoes. Where did you get them?"
I was just trying to find something to say, but my boss's eyes lit up as soon as he heard it. "I bought these shoes when I arrived in Hong Kong, or they are famous brands!" This time, the boss's chatterbox was suddenly opened, and he talked endlessly about his own experience in clothing matching, and also kindly pointed out to Xiao Li that he was usually not dressed enough at work. The two had a good talk.
when getting off the bus, the boss said earnestly, "Xiao Li, it seems that I knew too little about you in the past, so you should work hard in the future."
An unintentional topic about "leather shoes" started a friendly communication and understanding between Xiao Li and his boss. Here, a very important rule in interpersonal relationships is used: praising the details of other people's clothes can quickly narrow the distance between the two sides. Xiao Li hit the nail on the head when he saw his boss wearing new shoes, which immediately broke the deadlock between him and his boss and improved his relationship. By the way, he also learned a lot about his personal preferences, which was the dream of other colleagues! Judging from the attitude of the boss when he got off the bus, Xiao Li also showed himself in this opportunity and left a good impression on the boss. At work, it is better to use this method more often, pay attention to the changes of the other party's clothing and make moderate praise, and you can get unexpected good results.