Learn to ignore and learn to forget
Selection of insights:
We cannot choose our origin, parents and family, nor can we choose the platform that determines the fate of the first half of our lives. . No matter what this platform is and how much it affects us, we can't change it, so there's no need to complain, just acknowledge and understand.
However, we definitely have a way to choose our path, living environment or lifestyle for the rest of our lives. In other words, we can design our second birth, and we can also give our second birth Second life.
Some people say that there is nothing you can do if you have your own ideas, but the way to turn over is very simple, just go in the right direction and solve the problems you encounter in the right way. As for what is the correct approach? It is a way to turn yourself over and stand up without falling.
In this process, there are two mentalities that we living at the bottom of society should learn, understand and apply most, namely forgetting and ignoring.
Before the age of twenty, we should learn and understand neglect, and we must learn and understand neglect. Ignorance is not a kind of cowardice, but a survival skill. Personality is when a person is in a weak position. If you have nothing, you should ignore others saying that you are a poor person; if you are from a humble background, you should ignore the looks of contempt from others; if you have no background and connections, you must ignore that others are like a fish in water and everything is going smoothly; if If a person has no direct interest in you, it is necessary for you to ignore his moral values, values ??and outlook on life.
Ignorance is a kind of tolerance for others and a kind of relief for oneself. Ignorance is a kind of pressure relief for oneself, and it is also a way to make one's life simpler and simpler. It allows one to concentrate on doing what one should do or what one loves to do. Ignoring difficulties is equivalent to giving yourself strength.
Learn and understand "ignore". If you ignore an imposition that does not belong to you, you will unload a burden that does not belong to you; if you ignore a fairness that does not belong to you, you can strive for something that does not belong to you. Opportunities; ignoring things that you can't focus on is the most direct leap in life.
Then "forget", forgetting the things that oneself cannot bear, is the simplest release for oneself; forgetting a wrong beginning, you may get a correct ending; forgetting the blind choice before, you will get a correct ending. Ability to strive for a sober possession.
In fact, in human life, ignoring and forgetting are the best ways to heal spiritual trauma and get rid of baggage. If you learn and understand to ignore, your mind will be peaceful; if you learn and understand to forget, your spirit will be simple. Ignoring and forgetting is not a form of cowardice, but a form of strength, as long as you are still on the road to your goal.
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Know how to ignore, learn and forget It's coming faster and faster, and we often say a new word now: "stressful". If you analyze it carefully, where does the pressure come from? Was it given by someone else? No, it's self-imagined. When we encounter something, we are afraid to deal with it and feel that we cannot complete it, so we feel stressed. There are thousands of things to deal with in life. Sometimes there is no need to care too much about some unimportant things. Ignoring and forgetting is a kind of wisdom in life.
Therefore, try to ignore, ignore the expectant looks of others, ignore your own fearful state of mind, and deal with the unknown as if you were understanding a very ordinary thing. Invincibility does not mean that you have so many powerful martial arts, but that you never regard others as enemies. This is a state as calm as water, and it is also a kind of power that you don't know what to fear. Also try to forget, forget some of the pain that bothers you, forget some undestined people and relationships, forget the gains that you put in but did not get, forget those things that should not be remembered, forget everything that does not belong to you.
We cannot choose our origin, parents and family, nor can we choose the platform that determines our first half of our sexual destiny. No matter what this platform is and how much it affects us, we can't change it, so there's no need to complain, just acknowledge and understand. However, we definitely have ways to choose our path, living environment, or lifestyle for the rest of our lives. In other words, we can design our second birth, and we can also give ourselves a second life.
Some people say that there is nothing you can do if you have your own ideas, but the way to turn over is very simple, just go in the right direction and solve the problems you encounter in the right way. As for what is the correct approach? It is a way to turn yourself over and stand up without falling. In this process, there are two kinds of mentality that those of us living at the bottom of society should learn, understand and apply most, namely forgetting and ignoring.
In the complicated affairs, we should know how to ignore, and we must learn and understand to ignore. Ignorance is not a kind of cowardice, but a survival skill. Personality is when a person is in a weak position.
If you have nothing, you should ignore others saying that you are a poor person; if you are from a humble background, you should ignore the looks of contempt from others; if you have no background and connections, you must ignore that others are like a fish in water and everything is going smoothly; if If a person has no direct interest in you, it is necessary for you to ignore his moral values, values ??and outlook on life.
Ignorance is a kind of tolerance for others and a kind of relief for oneself. Ignorance is a kind of pressure relief for oneself, and it is also a way to make one's life simpler and simpler. It allows one to concentrate on doing what one should do or what one loves to do. Ignoring difficulties is equivalent to giving yourself strength.
Know how to "ignore". If you ignore an imposition that does not belong to you, you will unload a burden that does not belong to you; if you ignore a fairness that does not belong to you, you can strive for an opportunity that does not belong to you. ; Ignoring things that you can't focus on is the most direct leap forward in life.
Then "forget". A writer once said that to forgive is to bury regrets quietly; to forget is the most profound and thorough tolerance. Forgetting what you cannot carry is the simplest release for yourself; forgetting a wrong start, you may get a correct ending; forgetting the blind choices in the past, you can strive for a clear possession.
It is undeniable that ignoring and forgetting are the best ways to heal spiritual wounds and get rid of baggage. Human life is short, and a fragile life cannot carry too much load. It is not good for oneself to put so much pressure and shackles on oneself. If you know how to ignore it, your mentality will be peaceful; if you learn and understand and forget, your spirit will be simple. Ignoring and forgetting is not a kind of cowardice, but a kind of strength (My Dream Speech)
Know how to ignore, what you ignore is not the beautiful scenery, but the elusive temptation; learn and Understand and forget, what you forget is the surrounding environment and your own experiences, and what you remember is your own life.
Selection of three insights:
Learn and understand neglect
In this noisy and impetuous world, I always hear some people say that living is too tiring. Indeed, there are too many things that we need to take into consideration in life, such as family and career, and our energy is always very limited; in addition, various trivial matters are often entangled, and some people make up some "stories" for nothing, and often It makes us exhausted. Sometimes I really think: It would be great if there really was a cave, a fairy island, or a paradise, so that I could escape from the world of mortals and live a pure life. But this is impossible. Even if it is a fairyland, there will still be Sun Wukong causing trouble in the Heavenly Palace, and there will still be all kinds of grievances between gods!
As life continues, we will inevitably encounter the changes of the four seasons, encounter the invasion of wind, frost, rain and snow, get dust and encounter thorns in the process of walking, and we will also pick up joy and joy. Encounter pleasure. If you hold all these in your arms and store them in your memory, you will undoubtedly add one more baggage to yourself and put on one more shackles. How can walking like this be easy? Can walking like this still provide the pleasure of appreciating the scenery along the way and savoring its charm? Therefore, learning and understanding that neglect is a required course in life.
When we achieve success, we should not be immersed in joy and cannot extricate ourselves. You must know that those who hold on to past achievements will only be exhausted by them. You might fall hard before you go very far. What we have to do at this time is to calm down and think about it: Yesterday has passed, and tomorrow needs new goals. How can I stand higher and fly farther? Only by constantly improving yourself can you appreciate the unique beauty of the peak scenery of life!
When we receive undue criticism, we must remember: Any dispute will not help resolve the conflict, but will only make things worse. Calm yourself down and find an opportunity to communicate. If the other person is stubborn, don't worry about it, because you can't change other people's minds. Being angry and angry over other people's mistakes is self-punishment and a sign of irresponsibility to oneself. Learn and understand to be indifferent, learn and understand to ignore, smile gently at him, and then continue to go your own way, because his feet are on your body, he can't control you.
When we are hurt, we must never cry or be sad, let alone sink. Because that's exactly what those who inflicted the wounds expected to see. The stronger you are at this time, the more desperate they will be; the simpler you are at this time, the more helpless they will be. Wipe off the blood, stand up in the suffering, ignore all their shame, let them be in your heart not as good as the catkins in front of you, not as good as the breeze in your ears, reach out your hand, brush away everything they left, at this moment You walk firmly, gracefully and calmly.
Picture The famous painter Van Gogh eventually died of depression because he could not bear the pressures and things he didn’t care about in life; the famous writer Jack. London, unable to withstand the temptation of honor, applause and flowers, could no longer write clear spring water and fell before the pen. In life, there are too many things that need to be ignored. When making a choice, be sure to decide what is the most important and most beneficial, then you can ignore the unnecessary ones. If you learn and understand neglect, you will feel that life is full of sunshine and full of birds and flowers.
We must learn and understand neglect. Ignorance is not a kind of cowardice, but a survival skill. Personality is when a person is in a weak position.
If you have nothing, you should ignore others saying that you are a poor person; if you are from a humble background, you should ignore the looks of contempt from others; if you have no background and connections, you must ignore others who are like a fish in water and everything is going smoothly; if a person If a person has no direct interest in you, it is necessary for you to ignore his moral values, values ??and outlook on life. (Eight Mentalities)
Ignorance is a kind of tolerance for others and a kind of relief for oneself. Ignorance is a kind of pressure relief for oneself, and it is also a way to make one's life simpler and simpler. It allows you to concentrate on doing what you should do or love to do. Ignoring difficulties is equivalent to giving yourself strength. Ignoring an imposition that does not belong to you will relieve you of a burden that does not belong to you; ignoring things that you cannot focus on is the most direct leap in life.
Then learn and understand forgetting. Forgetting things that you cannot carry is the simplest release for yourself; forgetting a wrong beginning can lead to a correct ending; forgetting the blind choices before, You can strive for a clear possession.
Learn and understand to ignore and unburden the mind, and your mind will be peaceful; learn and understand to forget, your spirit will be simple. Ignoring and forgetting is not a form of cowardice, but a form of strength, as long as you are still on the road to your goal.
When we meet those who are worthy of admiration, we appreciate them with our hearts and use them as mirrors.
When we meet those simple and sincere people, we communicate with our hearts and treat them as confidants.
As for those dirty and despicable people, we look at them with the corner of our eyes, walk by calmly, and give them a back view.
In this way, our lives will be light and easy because we know how to ignore them, and our lives will be perfect and joyful because we know how to cherish them!