When Su Shi was demoted to Huangzhou as a deputy envoy, he made a friend named Ji Chang. Chen Jichang is a rich man of Long Qiu. He is wild and uninhibited, and regards wealth as dirt, which is just to Su Shi's taste. The two hit it off and became friends.

Su Shi and Chen Jichang are like-minded, and both like to travel, write poems, study Buddhist scriptures and have fun.

At that time, it was popular for rich people to keep geisha at home. When guests came, geisha could be entertained by singing and dancing. As it happens, Su Shi is also good at it, so he prefers to come to Chen Jichang's house often.

However, their wife Liu often spoils their fun.

Liu has a bad temper and is jealous. Whenever Chen Jichang entertained guests with songs and dances, she was "jealous", shouting with wooden sticks, banging on the wall, and sometimes simply rushing in to drive away geisha, which made Chen Jichang very embarrassed.

This happens again and again. Later, when Chen Jichang invited Su Shi to drink at home, he was afraid to let geisha entertain him.

But it is estimated that they will feel a little itchy after a long time. One night, Su Shi visited the Chen family again, and they sat and drank, bored. They secretly asked two geisha to sing while Liu was asleep.

Sue and Chen have repeatedly told geisha to keep their voices down, never sing passionate songs, just hum some lyric songs in a low voice.

However, Liu was awakened by the sound, listened attentively and flew into a rage. He immediately got up and rushed over, yelling loudly, scaring the geisha into panic and running away with the pipa. Su Shi also said goodbye.

The next day, Su Shi wrote a poem to make fun of Chen Jichang:

Liu was born in Hedong, and Su's "Hedong Lion" was Liu. Later generations used "lion roar" to describe the fierce woman who made a scene.

The roar of lions is not the exclusive right of China people.

It is said that the wife of Socrates, a famous ancient Greek philosopher, was also a shrew. I often yell at Socrates in front of everyone and even start tearing.

Once, when Socrates was discussing an academic problem with several students, his wife suddenly swore for some reason, which surprised all beings. Then, his wife brought a bucket of cold water and threw it at Socrates, so that Socrates was soaked through. When the students were very embarrassed and at a loss, Socrates smiled humorously and said humorously, "I knew it would rain after the thunder."

Someone asked Socrates why he married such a woman. He smiled and said, "If you can tame a fierce horse, why are other horses so difficult to control?" ? I can stand a fierce person like her. Who can't be my friend? "

Socrates didn't really regard his wife as a fierce horse. On the contrary, he loves her very much and even dotes on her.

Once, his wife flew into a rage in front of outsiders and tore off Socrates' coat. Some friends present were very angry. One instigated Socrates to slap his wife and teach her a lesson. Socrates was unmoved and said with a smile, "Are you waiting for us to clap after the fight?"

When his wife was worried that the food she prepared for her guests was too shabby, Socrates comforted her and said, "Never mind. If they understand the truth, they will naturally accept it. If they don't accept it, it means that they are unreasonable and don't care. "

Even when their son couldn't stand his mother's nagging and got angry with her, Socrates seriously criticized his son's ingratitude and educated him to apologize to his mother.

See you later, Chen Jichang.

As the saying goes, with deep pockets, how many daughters-in-law does Chen Jichang want to marry as such a rich man in the patriarchal era of the Song Dynasty? If his wife annoys him, he can divorce her and remarry.

But he allowed his wife to stop the banquet, drive away the geisha, lose face in front of the guests, and did not take any punishment measures against her. I really want to enjoy singing and dancing, but I have to do it quietly while my wife is sleeping. This is not like a rich man's attitude.

The only explanation is that he loves his wife, and he doesn't want to make her unhappy, and he won't take any action to hurt her.

Therefore, whether Chen Jichang or Socrates, or other "henpecked" men, are actually models of loving their wives, and their "henpecked" is just a manifestation of deep love.

Love that goes deep into the texture will not stay on the surface. True love is not only accepting what you like, but also accepting what you don't like.

There is no love for no reason in this world.

Socrates doesn't work or make money. He walked barefoot all day, dressed in shabby robes, wandering among drunkards, shoemakers, vendors, old women and geisha, talking about the past and present, pointing out the world. His father-in-law didn't like it and wanted his daughter to leave Socrates. But Socrates' wife refused to listen to her father. The father angrily pointed to Socrates and asked his daughter, "He does nothing but talk. He doesn't even have a pair of shoes, just like a beggar. Do you live with him just to be hungry together? "

Socrates' wife firmly replied to his father: "I love him and I want to be with him!" " "

Socrates only talked about philosophy and neglected housework. His wife must manage all the housework and try to get food for the whole family. The hardships of life will lead to women's impatience. Socrates is grateful for his wife's dedication, and even more grateful for her constancy. Therefore, he also returns his wife's deep love and understands and tolerates her bad temper.

As for my wife, I haven't seen any other written records, and I don't know her feelings with her, except that Su Shi wrote a poem about the lion's roar because Liu often lost his temper in Mai's Rong Zhai Essays. However, she will be "jealous" because Chen Jichang's listening to geisha singing just shows that she loves Chen Jichang, and "jealousy" is born of love.

Therefore, if you want your husband to be afraid of himself, you must first really love him.

For men, spoiling their wives is definitely more beneficial than harmful. Isn't there a saying: I will spoil your temper so that no one dares to fall in love with you?

With a sincere heart, for a spoony, no one loses.