Then, if you want him back, you need to take some concrete actions. In this process, I hope you can remain calm, calm and strong enough, because if you still let your emotions affect you, or in order to save his humility, there is no way to change your situation.
Then let's talk about the method.
Before you take action, you need to do some preparatory work, mainly to collect information and save evidence:
1. Take a screenshot of all the evidence you saw in his space to prevent men from destroying the evidence afterwards and accusing you of making trouble, which is also used as a bargaining chip.
Try to collect information about this girl. If you can enter the space, use her name and qq number. If you can't enter the space, use the common id human flesh. Read all the information about human flesh and try to understand what kind of person she is, what constellation, what blood type, what she looks like, what she likes, what she likes and so on.
All this is done quietly, don't startle him.
The second step is for you to take action.
This action is that you want to add that mistress (let's call it three, although I don't think it's an unmarried mistress. ) qq, or a visible instant chat tool.
Before adding, you need to do some things:
1. How to treat Cancer Male: As you are in a cooling-off period, you can continue to be cold. In fact, in this case, what you have to do is not to change your attitude towards a man and not to let him know that you found and caught him first.
2. Organize your qq space: In your space, if there is any content or log that you complain about Cancer Man and think he is bad for you, delete it all. Instead, it can show the sweetness between you, describe the happiness between you, and leave them all behind. If only there were a love letter from a cancer man or something. If not, just look through your chat history with Cancer Man, pick out the sweet and disgusting ones and upload them in the log. More important than a diary is a photo. Upload your sweet photos, the more the better, the sweeter the better. Perfect for couples to dress up or something. Whether she has been to your space before or not, your space will be your main weapon against mistress in the future.
3. About signature. Delete all the sad signatures in the past. Don't sign your name when you fight with your mistress. Why? Let her guess, the more she can't guess, the crazier she is.
After doing these things well, you can add her aboveboard. In the verification message, be sure to indicate: * * * girlfriend.
Step 3: Jump hard three times.
After you add her, there are two possibilities. One is that she doesn't add you, and the other is that she adds you.
If she chooses not to add you, it means that she is extremely scheming, avoiding your sharp edge, and even doesn't want you near her. She shifted her conflict with you to men. Either she is extremely scheming and guilty, which also shows that she probably seduced your man unilaterally and didn't get much response, so she didn't have chips and dared to face you.
If she doesn't add you, you have to go back to thinking about men. The probability of this situation is not high.
More likely, she will add you. Because whether out of curiosity or competitiveness, a woman will be full of curiosity about you, so there is a great possibility of adding you.
How can I communicate with her after she adds you?
At this time, the mini three links often think that the original match is for showdown, questioning and finding fault, so she is usually aggressive and aggressive. Remember, don't confront her. A slightly smarter mistress will want to find out the situation first, so she will use this to test your purpose. You can't let her feel it.
Specifically, don't talk to her actively. Remember, you add her for two purposes, clearly highlighting your existence, confirming that she is three, and making her feel psychological pressure; There is also to guide her to see your space and log.
So, you don't have to talk to her at all. But she will definitely take the initiative to talk to you. San Xiao can't be arrogant if you don't take the initiative to find her. Remember, when dealing with her, you must be polite, cold, expressionless, unemotional and unbiased. Keep the following conversation mode:
Three: You are * * * *' s girlfriend. You: Hmm.
Three: What do you want from me? You: Hehe, I saw your Q number in his space just now, and I heard him mention you before.
Three: He mentioned me? You: Hmm.
Three: What did he say about me? You: Say you are a good friend.
Three: Not bad? You: Isn't it?
……
Maybe mistress will feel bored. When she found out that you didn't come to criticize her, some mistresses chose silence, while others would show off in an ostentatious manner.
The following dialogue may be generated:
Three: * * is a nice person. You: Well, yes.
Three: He has a good relationship with the opposite sex, and many people like him. You: Hehe, yes.
Three: You don't know. You: Huh?
Three: There are many girls chasing him. You: Hehe.
Three: He likes * * *, so do I. Hehe, you: Hehe, yes.
……
It is also possible that she will take the initiative to show aggression:
Three: Why haven't you heard that he has such a girlfriend? You: Really? Maybe you don't know each other very well.
Three: I heard that your relationship is not very good? You: Hehe:)
Three: I heard that you still ask him? You: Oh? Hehe:)
Three: To be honest, I don't think you are suitable. You: Yes, hehe:)
You got it? Even if Mount Tai collapses in front of us, we should stand firm, change with constancy, aim high if we can't bear it, and don't fight for temporary passion.
Put yourself in your shoes and think about what a mistress will look like at this time. Maybe she's a little glad you didn't scold her, but your calmness will make her tremble! Because she can't understand your intentions and purposes at all, and she doesn't know what you are going to do next. People are most afraid when facing the unknown. Of course, it does not rule out that this third person has no brain at all. At this time, she may think that you are a soft egg, so she will die faster.
In the process of your struggle with her, remember:
1. Keep the chat record. Especially if she said something particularly arrogant, save the screenshot.
2. It must be remembered that she may be particularly weak in front of men, but she must be another face in front of you. Women are like this.
The more arrogant she is, the closer she is to your man, because there is nothing to be afraid of.
4. Guide her to talk more, because talking too much will hurt. The more she talks, the more mistakes she makes.
Step 4: Sit tight.
In this process, you need to give Saner time to read your diary and give him time to have fun with your man.
In this process, you need to quietly observe the changes in the diaries and signatures of Saner and your man to judge what happened between them.
In this process, the following things may happen:
1, your man has completely disappeared, and there is no news at all. You will never find him. If this really happens, I suggest you give up, because this man decided to choose the third son after discovering that things were exposed, so you should turn around beautifully. But as far as I guess, all cancer men have difficulties in choosing, which will be extremely rare.
2. Your man started looking for you crazily-this shows that Saner told your man about you and her. To some extent, this shows that their relationship is very close. He is eager to find you and know what you know, how you know it and to what extent. What he wants at this time is to put out the fire. -the probability of this happening is actually relatively high. Don't answer, don't answer, go on with your actions and plans. Because it won't last long.
3, the third child is suffering, and your man is entangled and helpless. This means that Saner had a fight with your man. Of course it's that kind of grievance. Pear blossoms bring rain, and gentleness is understandable. It hurts. It hurts. You can't lose you and you can't hurt the innocent. These are all Saner's usual tricks. A man must be soft-hearted because he knows that Saner is forcing him to make a choice.
4. It is possible that at least two people will not move. This shows that this third child is psychologically strong and has digested your love show alone. In this case, what you need to do is to keep updating your diary, that is, to show your love constantly. It is best to write down everything about getting a marriage certificate after graduation, which will constantly stimulate the third child. Until the above phenomena 2 and 3 appear.
Step 5: showdown with men
After the above four steps, the man and the third son are probably exhausted. After you are sure that Saner has been forced, troubled, jumped out and suffered, you can have a showdown with your man.
While you are waiting, your man will come to you from time to time. The reason has been mentioned before. He wants to confirm your present situation and what you want.
At this time, you can answer his phone call or reply to his short message, but remember, don't say on the phone that both sides are easily excited, but make an appointment, chat online, use qq or any tools. At this time, you don't have to worry that he will disappear and chat, because he can't wait to know your status.
After Q, tell him that no matter what happens, you love him and hope he can do the same to you. You are seriously in love with him and hope to have a good result. Your feelings have also been blessed by both parents, especially his mother.
Then send him all the evidence you have collected and let him explain it to you.
Men who are generally not strong enough in their hearts-especially cancer men-basically collapsed at this stage.
Don't expect to get anything from this conversation, because he will hide in the shell. But you must show your attitude:
You love him very much, but you are disappointed in him.
You want him to be a responsible person and give you a clear explanation.
Tell him that you respect any decision he makes. No matter what decision he makes, he will remember his kindness. He once loved you bit by bit. You loved it, and that can't be changed. Even if you break up, you will regard his mother as a dear elder.
Then you can go offline.
Go back and update your log. Recall the happiest moment between you. And think this is the best.
The rest. Calm down. Let men choose for themselves. San Xiao will continue to force him with pear blossoms and rain, and your last words will be whirled in his mind.
Of course, it does not rule out that this man has no conscience to a certain extent and finally chose someone else, so don't pester him. He really doesn't love you anymore. You've worked hard, that's enough.
These are all conceivable possibilities. As long as your heart is strong enough to do everything, you still have a good chance of winning.
Of course, if you say you can't do it, I can't help it, because human tragedy is largely a tragedy of character.